:: attention seekers ::

i came across people who are constantly seeking attention from others and i'm intrigued by how their minds work. as i'm pretty interested in how human beings function mentally, i did some researches and i'm not really surprised at my discovery.

i found out that these attention seekers are mostly people who has low self esteem and low self confidence and most of the time, they feel insecure. these people are usually emotionally immature and sadly, most attention seekers are females. drama queens are attention seekers, you know.

in order to 'cover' these feelings of insecurity, attention seekers will spend most of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attraction. in other words, anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours are telling people how emotionally immature they are. of course, when some people try to question or be direct about their behaviours, these people will deny. who wants to admit anyway? hahahahahaha...

attention seeking is suprisingly common and it comes in several methods. i dont need to name all of them but the ones listed below are the types of methods i have personally encountered in my life:

the sufferer:

this method by the attention seeker is usually done by feigning or exaggerating illness, playing on an injury or perhaps, causing or inviting injury. the illness or injury becaomes a vehicle for gaining sympathy and thus, attention. the attention seeker excels in manipulating people through their emotions, espcially that of guilt. it's very difficult not to feel sorry for someone who relates a plausible tale of suffering in a sob story or 'poor me' drama. ring a bell anyone?

once there was a lady who told me a special secret that no one else knows - even her family and her husband, whom she is 300% devoted to - that she has a heart problem. i must be really someone special to her that i was honoured to know the secret. whether its true or not, i'm not really bothered but somehow it's strange that one can actually say such things.

the manipulator:

one may exploit family relationships, manipulating others with guilt or distorting perceptions and hence, causing emotional injury to vulnerable family members. one common attention-seeking ploy of the manipulator is claiming to be persecuted, victimised, excluded, isolated or ignored by another family member or group, perhaps insisting that she is the target of a campaign of exclusion or harassment.

this lady (yes, a lady again) told me horrible stories of her MIL. well, hearing terrible stories of MILs are common but if one were to hear dis lady's 'aku dianiayai' stories, you'll know for sure that you're being ridiculed. well, i dont wish to elaborate the story here. tak baik lah katakan. hehehehe..

another lady happen to tell me stories of her 'aku dianayai'. but dis lady talks of her own mum. saying her mum favours the bro to her (oh she's 29 and yes, sadly she still thinks this way). maybe there's some truth about it but somehow she failed to see the fault that lies within her. but when kena tegur, tak terima etc. i think we should stop caring for friends. hahahahahaha..

the drama queen:

every incident or opportunity - no matter how insignificant - is exploited and exaggerated and if necessary, distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions.

hmmm.. dis is tricky. a lady i know lies about travelling to a certain country whereas in actual fact, she did not. so is she considered to be a drama queen? but why lie?

another lady i know always exaggerate events. well, lets jus say birds of a feather flock together. they're best friends forever now. how sweet.. awwwwww...

there are more methods used by the attention-seekers which so far, thank goodness, i did not come face to face with. well, there're some i've encountered but i'm not going to mention. i will be writing a book if i were to mention every details here. however, some questions come to mind when we come to know about the characteristics of attention-seekers, like how does this disorder comes about. i will read more about it and will enlighten you people wit my discovery again.

no, i dont mean to copy raihan's way of writing (that 'continue in next episode' thingy). i seriously need to strengthen my findings before i jotted it here for my pals to read for entertainment purposes. hehehehehe.. furthermore, i dont think y'all like the idea of a super long entry, do ya?